But to be honest, I thought a majority of Japanese men were quite strange so I eventually gave up on trying to find a Japanese boyfriend.

First of all the quality of men in general and secondly, if you went out with your friends they always try to compare themselves to the Angmo. You are so right! See that attractive girl walking down the street in New York City?

It shows that you respect their family and origins. It was amusing with all the stereo type opinions. Say what? Once in the room, the lady told me to take off all my clothes…I’m OK with that, now that I’m not a kid. While it may be nice to get some girls at the bar, I think western men must find it hard to find a Japanese woman that they would actually want to have a long-term relationship with (unless all they cared about was having a chick that looks hot).As for us women: It sucks that we have to put in way more effort than we should to get a man.

Hi all, I'm sure most of you are familiar with the concept of the "gaijin hunter", Japanese individuals who like to befriend or date foreigners because of an attraction to their perceived "foreignness" and the exoticism that comes with it, as opposed to primarily their personality. At least I hope the humor is intentional.Talking about relationships, no matter if cross-cultural or not, is always complicated as each is very unique and has its own story. It seemed to me she had done a lot of massages and seen a lot of Chinese and US guys.Note: I read that a guy’s size has not much to do with their height, and nothing to do with their shoe size.
I needed one pretty bad. Also, I think that if you have learned a language for someone, you are putting a lot of effort into the relationship – the Alpha and Omega of relationships.Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. You write a lot of thoughtful pieces, and don’t often repeat the well-worn myths about Japan, but saying that Japan is a good place for guys to meet women? Secondly I got so much offended with comprising like: “Oh, you look like an lobster (because I had a slight sunburn), or so ugly, so many freckles or my girl friend looks better than Sandra Bullok or you Western girls want to much sex. I think that a lot of the stereotypes are just that, and may not reflect as much reality as we perceive. That’s the word for gaijin but not flattering at all, meaning red devil, there are also other translations.

For foreign women, it’s a completely different story.

Here’s my take on my own blog, for foreign girls- let me know what you think!OMG! In Japan, this hardly ever happens. When I was in Japan, this girl paid for all my meals, despite offering to pay for the meal, or at least my own.
As you may have guessed, this doesn’t normally apply to Gaijin hunters. It would be misleading to think that once you get to Japan, you will immediately meet a lot of ‘high quality’ chicks ready to date you.Having said this, if you are willing to put effort into understanding the culture, nothing will stop you from dating Japanese girls. But in the end, I’m a believer in fate and that the right person shows up at the right time. According to my Japanese friends in America, there is virtually no hook-up culture in Japan. I consider myself a reasonably attractive guy (fit, confident, etc). These are found by accident, at work, in a university, etc. An experienced Japanese woman would normally be able to manipulate the guy into making the first move, with a sustained smile, or even just with eye contact.A gaijin hunter on the other hand, tends not to take such a roundabout method, and would directly come to talk to you if you’re within talking distance and she finds you attractive. The women in Japan are incredibly thin and take awesome care of themselves.